Dear Anita,
What’s your favorite toy?
--DD
Well, DD, I’m glad you asked. Toys are a terrific addition to any sexy pleasure chest, right in there with lingerie, high heels, candles, whips, and feather ticklers. Whether for solo, couple, or group play, my suggestion would be to try a few. See what you like.
My personal preference appeared on the market a bit ago, a vibrating beauty called the “Tryst.” Be still, my heart! I love my vibrator collection, and the Tryst is a delightful multi-tasker. I can use it by myself, or strap it onto a penis or penis-shaped object. I’m also a fan of the wand-style “massager” vibrators, even gave it a guest appearance in Pleasured Pursuits: The Adventures of Wicked Wanda. The wand is heavy-duty and dependable, a “built Ford tough” kind of vibrator. And sure, go ahead and massage your neck with it too. No need for batteries because it plugs in. The rabbit is another great choice because it has vibrating ears that work wonders on all the right spots. If you’re into anal play, there are plenty of choices from beads to plugs to prostate “massagers” for those lucky enough to have prostates to massage.
Spend some time shopping catalogs (including mine! See "Products" menu on this site) for ideas. Here are some basic toy categories: Vibrators and Dildos; Anal Toys; Masturbators; Bondage and BDSM; Nipple Toys and Cock Rings; and “Other” (for other adventures outside of these basic categories). Add here Lubes and Oils and Lingerie/Fetish Wear/Corsets.
I’d also like to address a hesitancy that I sometimes hear about sex toys. Some people feel threatened, as if the toy is a replacement. I’m not of this opinion. Sex toys can enhance a sexual experience. They can lengthen foreplay and intensify pleasure buildup. Toys can also be used to explore sexual interest and desire. How does this feel? And what about this? How about this much pressure? This much vibration? This sensation?
Allow me to make a quick food analogy here. Instead of thinking of sex toys as “competition,” think of them like seasoning. Sure, a potato is amazing on its own. I like carrots and other root vegetables as well, but let’s get back to potatoes because anyone who knows me well, also knows that I have a thing about spuds. So there’s that potato, just beautiful on its own... but add a drizzle of olive oil, some sea salt, a dash of pepper, and a light sprinkle of italian herb mix. Roast that tater in the oven until it’s tender. Oh, oh… (I might need a minute). And tomorrow, I might like the potato mixed with mayo and bits of celery. Or creamy and scalloped. Or french fried. Or… The point here is that variety is nice. It keeps things exciting. And speaking of excitement and sex toys, I have a date with my Tryst.
Until next time!
Mwwwahh!
--AT
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